Canggu and the greater region of Bali has become such a wonderful amalgamation of people around the world from diverse backgrounds and cultures. We bring with us varying passions, unique sets of skills, and perspectives that are being used to solve both micro and macro problems in countless niches that fill our imagination.

Similarly, the variance in circumstances which lead us here, influence us to stay, and ultimately allow us to grow as a community has such richness when we explore each other’s stories with vulnerability and depth.

Canggu and the greater region of Bali has become such a wonderful amalgamation of people around the world from diverse backgrounds and cultures. We bring with us varying passions, unique sets of skills, and perspectives that are being used to solve both micro and macro problems in countless niches that fill our imagination.

Similarly, the variance in circumstances which lead us here, influence us to stay, and ultimately allow us to grow as a community has such richness when we explore each other’s stories with vulnerability and depth.

Some common themes which seem to be shared with ease are that some have ‘escaped’ from a job/ career they didn’t like, a climate that wasn’t their ideal, or a lifestyle crisis that felt appropriate to be left behind. Or conversely, many have been drawn to freedoms of seemingly scheduleless living, affordable luxuries, and inescapable idyllic settings daily.

Let’s give some gratitude and appreciation right now to ‘living the dream’! ...but then, that is an easy phase to quote. And to say anything less would be rude and possibly even an insult to those who aren’t so ‘lucky’ to have our reality right?

So I wonder, when you ask yourself about ‘living the dream’, does it come from a true inner feeling that you are emotionally attached to? Or is it coming from a logical place of ‘I am ticking the boxes, it looks good, and everyone says how lucky I am’ Therefore it must be ‘the dream’.

Whichever end of the scale you lean towards, I invite you to read on and notice which elements of the following you resonate with. Which you can incorporate into your own discovery, and maybe which you can gift to others to help them enrich their reality wherever in the world they may be.

As an ‘Adventurepreneur Coach’, having helped many many enter the entrepreneurial space to create adventure lifestyles through building business with meaning and purpose, I am sure you can guess the types of conversations I have regularly with people from our home countries. However, I have noticed a surprisingly strong theme here too!

And it’s that the conversations here are not too dissimilar from the ‘real world’. With having achieved so much, living a great lifestyle, and so much available to be grateful for, I still hear the overwhelming undertone of; “I’ll be happy when… (insert outcome here)”

We have brought a variation of the thinking and strategy from our old lives through to this new life, and basically get the exact same outcome still! It seems like an adaptation of the generalised western standard for ‘success’.

‘I will be successful/happy when… I get a good education, when I get that good career outcome, I get the relationship/family, get the house, the car, the vacation, the retirement fund, the retirement…” There is no answer at the end of this pathway. It is a life of waiting and hoping that what we are seeking might turn up as a result of what we are trying to externally influence.

If you are the kind person that counters this, maybe the choice could be to drop out completely, go against the grain, refuse materialism entirely, and do less with life. But that’s not really that fulfilling either.

With my new clients, I get really curious about how their ‘Ideal Average Day’ looks. What I have discovered is that most people have never got really clear on how they want to experience their lives.

Why they love this exercise so much is that it gives them an alternative to conquering the world when they have discovered it doesn’t really result in satisfaction. It gives them straight to the point clarity in what they need to focus on to create fulfillment that is unique to them. And it becomes almost their blueprint to their life with intention and purpose.

So where goal setting is typically all about an accumulation of stuff and getting the outcome, creating your Ideal Average Day is about looking at the experiences we want to fill our life with.

This exercise is all about who you are becoming? Who are you going to be as a human being? What is going to matter to you? How do you know it matters? How do you know that you are living your life in a way that matters? This conversation changes everything. It’s no longer measured by bank accounts and externals.

It’s now measured by am I loving me? Do I value myself? Do I feel self-worth? Do I feel self-esteem? Am I feeling on track for the love that I want to experience? It’s the conversation that so many seem to be avoiding but really it’s the only one that really matters…. Rather than, just tell me how to get more stuff?

When we are able to design what our life would like according to our highest ideals, we can then begin to start living intentionally whilst moving in this direction.

Download your free workbook to complete this exercise at Parallaxxtransformations.com/ideal-day

On the not so rare occasion new clients will roll their eyes when I bring this topic up with the immediate generalisation that this is another thing that won’t work for them. And in every instance we discover they have mastered avoidance strategies to keep them from actually doing it, or they have treated it with the same-old-thinking of a tick box, to-do list of actions.

The key to bringing your highest ideals to life is getting crystal clear why any of it is actually being included at all. As you complete this exercise, include the following frames within your answers;

• What does it mean to you?

• How is it important ?

• What impact does it make?

• How will you choose to feel during and as a result of this action?

• What are you choosing to tell yourself?

• How important is this from 1-10?

Morning routines can often be a challenge for many people so let’s create a single example of how this could look for someone.

What are your morning rituals?

• Wake up naturally at 6am to the sun streaming through my windows. I am enthusiastic to start my day curious about what new challenges I can solve for my clients.

• I wake my body up with some light yoga poses for 20 mins and take some pre-work out ready for Wanderlust Crossfit Class at 7am.

• Crossfit is an important part of my routine as I love tracking my fitness goals and improving my technical skills. I enjoy the social elements that put me in a good mood early. During the work out, I am telling myself that I am unstoppable, I can conquer anything, and that no matter what happens during the day - nothing else compares to this! It brings presence and focus to my morning whilst being free from mental stress. 8/10 Important.

• I return home to a plate of tropical fruit freshly prepared by my home help and a protein shake. It provides me with so much gratitude and appreciation in the moment, while enjoying the stillness to recover. I use this time to complete my progress journal; reflect on the previous day then choose a new focus for the day, how I want to feel, my goal to achieve, and important action items to complete.

• Before 9am I turn my work brain on to focus for my first scheduled call. I am looking forward to connecting with my client who I have consciously selected to work with based on shared values and direction. Each and every call allows me to discover my inspiration, connection & collaboration, while embracing the sense of adventure. Their gratitude provides me with an amazing feeling of contribution and significance.

The leading questions (and sometimes seemingly unimportant too), will highlight gaps in your life that you might have been unconsciously avoiding, or they might validate how much of your life is already awesome and just requires some self acknowledgment how great you have done so far. The bet part of this exercise is that it will show you how much if your ideal average day can already exist as of tomorrow with just a little awareness and showing up to it with intentional action towards it!

I trust that you will love it. For queries or feedback, please feel free to email direct at hello@ parallaxxtransformations.com

Cheers, Dan